Grief Looks Like...(First in a Series) / El Luto se ve como...(Primero en un serie)

Periodically I will be sharing snapshots, in pictures and words, of how our family is dealing with the grief of having had to say goodbye to Danny here on earth.

De vez en cuando estare compartiendo historietas y fotos de como nuestra familia sigue enfrentando el duelo de haber tenido que despedir a Daniel aqui en la tierra.

October 12, 2013 

Every Friday after school our kids visit the merit store and purchase different fun items with the merits they have earned during the week. Yesterday, Ana showed me what she had purchased...a Spiderman washcloth scrunched into a little cube that expands when placed in water. I thought her purchase to be a bit strange for a girl, but if that's what she wanted, fine with me! Well, last night I went into Danny and David's bedroom to get David's pajamas (David still isn't sleeping in his room yet) and, on the floor, stretched out, was Danny's Spiderman sweatshirt, one of his favorites, stretched out next to, you guessed it, the Spiderman washcloth Ana had purchased. She had bought the washcloth for Danny, with her own hardearned merits, gone to Danny's room, found his favorite Spiderman sweatshirt and arranged them together on his floor. Wow! I didn't say anything to her and she didn't tell me about it. This was part of her grief process, and became a part of mine.

12 de octubre, 2013 

Cada viernes, despues de la escuela, los ninos visitan la tienda de meritos y compran articulos divertidos con los meritos que han ganado en la escuela durante la semana. Ayer, Ana me mostro su compra...una toallita para lavarse con Spiderman. No tuvo mucho sentido para mi su compra, ya que es una ninita, pero si esto es lo que queria comprar estaba bien. Bueno, anoche fui al cuarto de Danny y David para sacar el pijama de David (el sigue sin dormir en este cuarto) y cuando entre, alli estaba una de las sudaderas favoritas de Danny tendido en el piso al lado de...ya adivinaste...la toallita que Ana habia comprado. Ella habia comprado, gastado sus meritos que ella gano, en la toallita para Daniel. Luego fue a su cuarto, busco la sudadera que ella sabia que le gustaba y lo tendio en el piso con la toallita. Yo no le dije nada y ella no me dijo nada. Era parte de su proceso de luto y ahora forma parte de mi proceso tambien.